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假自我,讓你我們無法敞開去愛

添加時間:2017-05-23 03:28 來源:Binzz網[整理] 編輯:冷蝴蝶
生活中有一定比例的人在親密關系的建立上存在障礙——表現為總是不能與心儀的人建立親密關系。 缺乏安全感,讓我們錯失了多少幸福的可能?

生活中有一定比例的人在親密關系的建立上存在障礙——表現為總是不能與心儀的人建立親密關系。

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除此之外,這種人還容易陷入多角戀的感情糾纏模式里,給自己和周圍的人帶來很多困擾。有很多人的親密關系似乎每次都需要在多角戀中進行,這其實也是在逃避真正的親密關系,他們借助表面的假親密或者表面的復雜的糾纏來掩蓋真實的問題-----就是他們在親密關系的建立能力上存在障礙。

NEIMEWEISHENMEHUIYOUZHEZHONGRENNI?ZHEZHONGRENZAOYULESHENME?TAMENWEISHENMEHUIZHEYANG?

答案是他們內部有兩個自我,一個是真實的虛弱的自我,另一個是強硬的虛假的自我。手游棋牌可以說后一個自我是為了保護前一個自我而衍生出來的保護性自我,它像一個面具一樣被戴在當事人身上,是他們在與環境互動中采取的保護性策略。

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這些異性對他的迷戀,一方面滿足了他優越的自尊心,但是又讓他們感到深深的害怕,因為他們的潛意識總是在提醒他們,他們的真實內心根本不是這樣的。于是你會看到,與這種人戀愛你總是需要跟他隔著500米的距離,你觸摸不到他,似乎他需要的只是你的迷戀,而不是真正的與你建立親密關系。

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以上這幾類人有一個共同的特點:即沒法近距離的坦露真實的自我。

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這種沒法近距離的坦露真實的自我,跟一個我們常用的詞語有關,叫缺乏安全感。

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但是極度缺乏安全感的人在面對愛情時,除了有常人遭遇的欣喜外,會容易爆發恐懼。這種恐懼會讓他啟用自己的防御機制,即第二個假我來保護自己。這樣就讓他在向外傳達信息時,會傳達出非常矛盾甚至相反的信息。

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這種嚴重缺乏安全感的人可能存在著嚴重的早年心理創傷,這種創傷如此早,很多時候已經根植于潛意識,可以說它們是一種被壓抑著的遺忘了的痛苦。

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如果你的愛人讓你感到困惑,或許他就是一個具有不安全依戀模式的人,克服這種不安全依戀的最大招數就是供安全感,在他爆發出各種傷害你、不可理喻的事情的時候,依然選擇愛他,就是對他最大的修復,也是他在感情里最大的渴望。

即無論如何,不離棄他,無論如何,都愛他,接受他,永不拋棄他,一旦獲得這種肯定,不安全依戀模式的人才能正常下來享受親密關系,慢慢向你敞開自我。

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這世界上,沒有「理解」手游棋牌化解不了的心理問題。甚至有心理大師說,之所以有人有心理問題,是因為他們缺少一個理解他們的人,他們從來沒遇到過一個理解他們的人。

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比如你明明想要愛情,為什么每次當愛情出現的時候,你又退回去了,你需要覺察,導致你退回去的原因是什么?你在擔心什么?你的內心在發出什么樣的聲音?

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不論什么人,親密關系都是一塊可以檢驗我們自我的鏡子手游棋牌,好的親密關系會修通我們以前整合的不夠好的自我,讓我們破除虛假的自我,而勇于擁抱真實的自我,這種真實的自我就是我們內在的生命力。

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所以,理解自己的真實需求是認識自我的第一步,也是建立親密關系的良好準備。由于偽裝的太久,有些人已經分不明白哪些是真實的自己哪些是偽裝久了的自己,比如哪些強勢的自己,強硬的自己,強大的自己真的是真實的自己嗎?那些驕傲的自己、清高的自己,看上去對什么都不屑的自己真的是自己的真實意圖,還是為了保住自己的自尊而衍生出的一些偽裝策略?

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所有你經歷的外界都是你內心的反映,所有你現在遭受的對待都是你想要的別人對待你的方式。你沒有找到愛情,當愛情來了你總是把握不住,不是你把握不住,而是你潛意識里就認為自己不值得愛,不相信會被愛,你會在潛意識里把它推走,繼續忠誠于你早年經歷的感情模式。

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是的,這個影子正是你不敢示人的一部分自我,如果你不接納自己,你就無法讓別人接納你,你這部分就永遠得不到安慰,你也不允許別人走進你的內心,而這正是親密關系的障礙。

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