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委曲求全能讓人際順暢嗎?

添加時間:2017-05-23 03:30 來源:Binzz網[整理] 編輯:冷蝴蝶
當別人觸碰你的底線時,你是合理表達,還是忍氣吞聲?

面對很多不公的事情,選擇憤怒也許不會解決問題。但是,長此以往,你會模糊了你的原則,變成一個可以任意被人挑戰和侵犯的人。
忍氣吞聲,并不能幫助你換來順暢的人際關系,反而,你會成為人見人欺的老好人。

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手游棋牌 HENDUORENXIANGZHIDAOWOSHIZENMEGOUTONGZHEJIANSHIDE,YINWEIWOMENDOUYUDAOGUOLEISIDEQINGKUANG。

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手游棋牌 WOJUEDUILIJIEZHEZHONGFENNU,YEJUEDUIZHICHINIQUBIAODA,DANNIYIDINGYAOMINGBAIWEISHENMENIHUIFENNU,NIYOUGAIRUHEBIAODAFENNU。

手游棋牌 WOZAISHENGHUOLIYUDAOGUOBAOZIXINGGEDE“LAOHAOREN”,HAOXIANGYUDAOSHENMEGANGADECHANGMIANDUITAMENLAISHUODOUBUSUANSHI,BEIRENZHIZHUBIZIMADOUNENGPEIXIAOLIAN,DANNIYAOSHIYUANYITINGTACHANGKAIXINFEIDAKAIHUAXIAZI,NITINGDAODEJUEDUISHIGEZHONGKUCHUHEBUYI。

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手游棋牌 TAFANWENWO,FENNUYOUSHENMEYONGNI?TABIANBUCHENGBIYELUNWENA!

手游棋牌 DEQUE,FENNUWUFAZHUANHUACHENGYIGENIXIANGYAODEJIEGUO,DANFANGQIFENNUYIWEIZHUNIFANGQILEDIXIAN,FANGQILEBAOHUZIJIDEQUANLI。XIAYICI,ZAIYUDAOLEISIDESHIQING,NIYIRANHUITUOXIE,JIAZHUANGXIAOSASHUOMEISHI。

長此以往,你會模糊了你的原則,變成一個可以任意被人挑戰和侵犯的人。

手游棋牌 SUOYI,FENNUSUIRANTINGSHANGQUGENHUODAHEBAORONGXIANGBEI,DANTADEJIJIYIYIZAIYUTABAOHUWOMENYUANLINEIXIEKENENGHUISHANGHAIWOMENDERENHESHI,RANGBIERENZHIDAONIDEDIXIANZAINALI。

DANGRAN,RUGUONIBENLAIJIUSHIYIGEKEYINILAISHUNSHOUBUDUANDIAOZHENGZIJIDIXIANDEREN,NIKEYIKANQILAIHENDANRANHENHUODA,BUXUYAOFENNU,ZHEYANGWUXUDUOYAN。ZUIPADESHIDADUOSHURENYINGDUIFENNUQINGXUDEFANGSHI,JIUSHIQIAOWUSHENGXIDEYAYIZAIXINLI.

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手游棋牌 WOMENCONGXIAODAODAJIUBEIJIAOYUYAOYOUHANYANG、YOUCHENGFU、BUXIXINGYUSE、YAOPINGHECHUSHI,ZHEXIEKEBANDEYAOQIUSUOZHULEWOMENBIAODADEYUWANG,YOUQISHIDUIYUNEIXIEFUMIANDEQINGXU,WOMENHUIXIGUANXINGDIYAYI。

堆積久了的憤怒就像房間里的垃圾,會散發酸腐惡臭,污染你的內心。

手游棋牌 BIEYIWEITAMENKEYIZIJIQINGLIZIJI,FENNUHUIYIBIEDEXINGSHIHUOZHETONGGUOBIEDEQUDAOSANFACHUQU。

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QISHI,FENNUSUIRANHENRONGYIBEIGANZHI,KANSHANGQUXIANGYIZHONGHENHEXINDEQINGXU。

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手游棋牌 YOULIANRENCHUGUIYINQIDEFENNUSHIYINWEIWOMENBEISHANGHAINEIXINJUEDEZIJIKELIAN,BEILINGDAOZHIZEYINQIDEFENNUHUIRANGWOMENGANDAOZIJIHENMEIYONG,ZHEXIEFENNUZHIXIADOUSHICUOBAIHEWULI,SHIGENZHENSHIZIWOXIANGGUANJINMIDEZIWORENZHI。

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所以,表達憤怒于自身而言是一種合理的需求,我們在表達過程中疏通負面情緒,也可以避免加深內心的自責和羞恥。

SUIRANZHESHIWOMENKEYIHENRONGYILIJIEDEFANGSHI,DANBIAODAFENNUDEZHANGAIHUANYOUYIBUFENLAIYUANYUDANXINTAHUIYINGXIANGBIERENDUIZIJIDEYINXIANGYIJIPOHUAIRENJIGUANXI.

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別以為忍氣吞聲就一定會換來別人對你的好印象,或者和諧順暢的人際關系。

手游棋牌 YIFANGMIANNIDEFENNUMEIYOUXIAOJIEJIUYIDINGHUIYIQITAFANGSHIZUOYONGYUSHENGHUODANGZHONG,YOUKENENGYINWEIJIYADEFENNUNIBUYUANJIJIGENDUIFANGGOUTONG、XIANGCHU,GUANXIZIRANHUISHUYUANHUOZHEYINQIGENGSHENCENGDEMAODUN;

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一定要注意表達時的語氣

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●先說一句能拉近彼此距離的話

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●講感受而不評價

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手游棋牌 “NIJIUSHIGEBUKAOLVBIERENGANSHOUDEREN”、“NITAIWUCHILE”、“NIYOUBINGBA?”LEISIDEFUMIANPINGJIADOUBUYAOSHUO,ZHENZHENGSHANGGANQINGDEBUSHIFENNU,SHINIDECHEDIFOUDINGHEGONGJI。

手游棋牌 NIKEYISHIZHUJIANGNIDEGANSHOU,YINWEIDUIFANGZUODESHIRANGNIGANDAOSHANGXIN、NANGUO、WEIQUDENGDENG,QINGXUHUICHUANDI,HUIRANGDUIFANGGENGYOUKENENGGANTONGSHENSHOU,XIANGBIZHIJIEGAOSUDUIFANG“NICUOLE”,JIANGGANSHOUCAISHIRANGDUIFANGZHENZHENGRENSHIDAOZIJICUOLEDEYOUXIAOTUJING。

●不追溯過去

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QIEBUSHUOTANANPENGYOUDAODIFANLEDUOSHAOZUIGUO,DANJIUGUIMIDEGOUTONGFANGSHIERYAN,JUEDUISHIYIGEZHIHUIJIANGWENTIKUODAHUADEJUDAbug。

手游棋牌 TAOLUNWENTIYAOJUJIAO,YANXIAYINQINIBUKUAIHEFENNUDESHIQINGSHISHENMEJIUTAOLUNSHENME,BUYAOBAGUOQUYILIUDEWENTIYELAJINLAIJIAOJU,NEIXIEWENTIGUOQUDOUMEIJIEJUE,YOUZENMEKENENGZAIDANGXIADAJIADOUBUYUKUAIDEDANGKOUTONGTONGCHULIGANJING?

TINEIXIECHENZHIMALANGUZIDESHIDEZUIKENENGJIEJUJIUSHI,NIMENYOUZENGJIALEYIGEXINDEWENTI,HUANBAGUOQUSUOYOUDEFENNUYOUZHONGXINTIYANLEYIBIAN。

●提需求和建議

BIAODAGANSHOUBUSHIZHONGDIAN,RANGDUIFANGDAOQIANYEBUSHIZHONGDIAN。ZHEYICIBIAODAFENNUYENENGQIDAOFANGHUANYUWEIRANDEZUOYONG,SUOYIZUIHOUYIDINGYAOTICHUNIDEXUQIU,XIAYICIYUDAOLEISIDESHIQINGNIXIWANGDUIFANGZENMEZUOCAIBUHUIYINFAMAODUN.

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手游棋牌 NAPENGYOUDESHIQINGJULI,TAKEYIGAOSUDUIFANG,XIWANGTAXIACIZUNSHOUYUEDING,RUGUOSHIZAIYOUBUDEBUSHUANGYUEDELIYOU,NEIZHISHAOXIANDAOQIANBINGQIEDAYINGYIHOUZAIPEITAQUKANZHEBUDIANYINGZUOWEIYIZHONGBUCHANG。JIGEILEDUIFANGTAIJIE,YEZHIMINGLEFANGXIANG。

手游棋牌 QISHI,MEIGERENDOUYOUZIJIDEDIXIANHEBUYUANBEICHUPENGDEDONGXI,WOMENSUIRANKEWANGBIERENBUJIANTAZHEGEROURUODELINGDI,DANQUESHIMEIBANFAYAOQIUSUOYOURENDOUNENGWANQUANLEJIEZIJI,NENGGOUHAOWUMOCADIJIANLIQIJIANSHIDEGUANXI。

SUOYI,FENNUSHIYIZHONGSHITAN,YESHILEJIEBICIDEGUOCHENGZHONGBIRANCHUXIANDEQINGXUJIAOHUAN,HUIBITAJIUSHIDUIZHENSHIRENSHENGDETAOBI,YIWEIZHUNIWUFAZHENZHENGGENNIDEQINGXUZUOPENGYOU。

真正智慧的人能夠意識到自己的憤怒來源于哪,懂得合理的表達憤怒,也敢于去表達,因為這意味著你能坦然面對自己的情緒,也能坦蕩的面對他人。

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